Organized Mom Assumptions


You probably think that organized moms who declutter have it all together.

Maybe you believe they have more time, more help around the house, and less work to do, and decluttering comes naturally for them. I’m here to tell you that’s not true. 

Decluttering is what those moms did in order to become organized moms.

Decluttering is what created that excess time, help and it is a skill that they practiced in order for it to be second nature and then teach their family how to declutter too.

And yes, some people DO have higher capacities to manage and organize more stuff. Sometimes it's just who they are, and sometimes it's their circumstances. Stop comparing yourself to your hyper-organized mom who raised you in the 80s/90s prior to the MASS fast everything, social media, life we live in now. Are their kids older? Neurotypical? Do they have childcare? A mutual understanding of shared responsibilities? Family support? And often you aren't seeing the full picture. Maybe on the surface it looks like they are super organized but they're also struggling in the same ways.

If you think I am going to tell you that before you can declutter you need to become more organized, have 100% support of each family member or secure large blocks of time and energy – I’m not.

I am not someone who has it all together. Almost daily look around my house frustrated by the way my kids just throw their hoodies on the couch.. Or floor.. And then I see my own socks on the stairs or my shoes left in the kitchen floor because that’s where I take them off when I get home from grocery shopping or really any time I come home because everyone needs a snack all the time right? 

My point is that I declutter because this is just the way I am, and how most kids are and to be honest… most adults are. At least to some degree we all have our explosively messy quirks. And the point isn’t to become some obsessively controlling clean freak, it’s the opposite. It’s to know that you all can exist within the walls of your home AND it’s easy to clean it all up. 

Clutter INCREASES the amount of work you and your kids have to do. Which makes yours and their existence in a home, frustrating because by nature it is at least a little but messy. Your home will always have evidence of people living in it. The goal is to make that evidence easy to truly embrace (not just pretend like it doesn’t bother you) AND easy to clean it up. 

In today’s episode, I share what it’s actually like for moms who declutter, my personal experience with decluttering and its impact on my day-to-day life, and some of the negative effects of clutter. 

Main Topics Covered in this Episode:

  • Why moms who declutter don’t have it all together
  • Why you shouldn’t compare yourself to a mom who declutters
  • A glimpse into my life as a mom who declutters
  • The negative impacts of clutter and the benefits of decluttering

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Even if you have little time, energy or day to day support